2025: My Year of Intention, Accountability & Radical Growth

2025: My Year of Intention, Accountability & Radical Growth

Natural Representation of Growth

This is my year of INTENTION—and I mean that with every fiber of my being. In 2025, I am fixing all my shit. No more excuses. No more deflection. Just radical personal accountability.

Why I’m Holding Myself Accountable This Year

I’m not sugarcoating anything anymore. I will own everything I do—my wins and my mess. I will:

• Listen more than I speak

• Think twice before responding

• Acknowledge my emotions without letting them control me

• Take full responsibility for the energy I put into the world

This is what self-growth looks like for me.

In Retrospect, I Was a Whole Mess 

Looking back, my level of nonchalance? Whew. Yuck. I used to be so unaware of how deeply I needed healing. But growth has a funny way of slapping sense into you—and I’m grateful for it.

Still Me, But Better

I’ll always show up as authentically me. That’s non-negotiable. But I’m showing up as:

• A wiser version

• A more intentional version

• A grown, beautiful version

• A woman with purpose

• A woman who knows what she wants

Blogging: My Healing Space in 2025

One solution to me not talking too much? Blogging.
This space right here is where I’ll be unpacking my thoughts daily (sometimes more than once a day), just like I did back in 2010 when I first started this blog.

If you're on your own journey of self-discovery and healing, I hope this space encourages you to show up for yourself too.

Final Thoughts

I truly hope more people find and connect with this blog. Everything I share here is coming from a real, raw, unfiltered place. No fluff, just the truth of where I’m at and where I’m headed.

xoxoxoxo

Tunmama ❤️💋

I am human....I am fluid....

Default me is mean. Actually mean. 

My first response is never kindness…which is why it is always kindness… 

I have learnt to live in my shell. I let her out once in a while. 

Actually a little too many times🤭 

But then my inner circle, people I interact with everyday, they get the “kind” me. 

Oh that’s who they get. 

At intervals EVERYDAY, the real me pops out.

 

The unfiltered me. The totally undiluted me. 

But also as quickly as she comes out, is at the same speed as she runs back in. 

This is what they call “LIFE” I guess, because…. 

😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨lol this emoji is actually me in my head most of the time.

I am navigating through this life at my best possible. 

I am always open to getting better…

I am human, I am fluid. 

Maria Okan, former Beat FM OAP Preg for Olamide Badoo!?!?

This Marian & Olamide's pregnancy thing is really doing me one kind.

On Monday 1st July, I saw on Olamide's Instagram page that he and his fiance just had a their second baby. I was elated and all.

Actually before that, I had seen on Maria's page (recently resigned Beat FM OAP) that she was having a baby. I even thought it was in the usual Nigerian women form whereby you only reveal your pregnancy AFTER the baby is born ( I know I did it). Then you start to post throwback photos and all. All this is usually to avoid giving birth to a yam...oooook.

Anyway, the day after Olamide announced his new child with his over-the-years-girlfriend-turned-fiance, my colleague at work hit me up on whatsapp asking me if I knew blah blah blah...see our conversation below...

I legit thought she was just talking about 2 different things until she linked it!

I don't even know what to feel about this whole thing. For me right now its just extremely juicy gist.

I'll sit here with my drink as I await more gist to unfold.....

TTT!

Shame on me!

Hellooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

How is it not a shame that I haven't posted anything since 2015??????? That's sad actually.

I have alot of thoughts these days and then just compress them into a few words on instagram. I think i'm ready to resume venting on here.

A LOT of shit has gone down in the past few years. I now have 3 children! Yup, my 2 boys and now a girl...she's a year and 3 months old now. Tasking with those 3, but still amazing cos they're just such amazing personalities.

Okay I gotta go now. Got work to do, but I will be posting again today.

Toodles!

TTT....

Sagittarius Woman

Except she's listening just so she can analyse and dissect all the crap coming out your mouth lol

A Touch of Love - for my babies

Saw this poem somewhere and I loved it.  Enjoy:

Quote

A Touch Of Love

You were six months old and full of fun,

With a blink of my eye, you were suddenly one.

There were so many things we were going to do,

But I turned my head and then you were two.

At two you were still dependent on me,

But independence took over when you were three.

Your third birthday, another year,

But as I lit the candles there weren’t three but four.

Four was the year that you really strived,

Why look at you, now you’re already five.

Now you’re ready for books and rules

This is the year that you go to school.

The day came, you were anxious to go

We walked to the bus, going oh so slow.

As the bus drove away and you waved goodbye,

I felt a lump in my throat and a tear sting my eye.

For when the bus brings you home and you jump to the ground,

You’ll be wearing a cap and graduation gown.

Time goes by so fast it’s hard to believe

Why just yesterday you were home with me.

So I’m holding these moments as hard as I can,

Because the next time I look….

I’ll be seeing a man

Unqote

Tunmama

Wellllllll, Tuvie's got a baby bro! LOL

hi bxxxtchessssssssssss! lol ok i'm sorry. Hi guys. Its been almost a year! its been such a roller coaster for me. At some point i felt like a machine...a baby making machine that is lol. I have news.....drumrollllllllllll plssss (as if the post title didnt already give it away lol) My baby boy Tuvie is now a big brother!! Yup, i had another baby boy May this year...i know i know...these things happen.

How's everyone doing though? i'm sure alot has happened in your lives as well. i've missed blogging sha. i've missed ranting and randomly blabbing and typing fast. mostly a lot of personal nonsense but im glad i have pple who like to read my nonsense.

i love u all... i'll return to consistent blogging soon. I must make it like Linda!!

Aren't they cute....Big bro Tuvie, lil bro Tegha

Tunmama